Marriage

Thristina Woodhams

Sometimes, you can speak about marriage using a generic definition. But most of the time life is hectic and ever-changing. Among the whirlwind of change, there will be transitional moments. These moments are of the upmost importance in a truly strong marriage. Transitional moments are the ones that create the longest-lasting impact. This impact will either bring closeness or it will create a cold distance. When a partner shows selflessness, non judgement or intimacy in any form, it’s a transitional moment for the relationship. Those are the beautiful moments! Keep those moments tucked safely in your soul. On the other hand there are situations when you may have thought you were in a relationship, but really you were just with a partner that was lying, cheating, stealing trust, creating anxiety and self-consciousness. Those are the situations the steal the light. They take the twinkle out of your spirit and the brightness out of your existence. In will creep the mistrust and it’s twin sister misery, if you let them. It’s the relationships filled with support and encouragement that make all the unworthy ones worth it, I know. When a human being doesn’t have to benefit, understand, or be in charge of the situation, and still chooses to love unconditionally. It reinforces the relationship in the best of ways. Try to be selfless in all you do and put your loves needs first at times even above your own, and you will know too.

Also try to remember that sometimes when a tactic is effective in a friend’s marriage, even if it’s in a great way. It doesn’t necessarily mean that it will have the same effect on your marriage. As humans, we are as unique as our fingerprints. So be slow to react and fast to be intimate in hard times, because that’s when it matters most.

To stretch this idea, as far as it’ll go, I also want to touch base on the notion that it is a part of the thrill in a marriage to have two people in a relationship that might not always see eye to eye. They can be different in their decisions, desires, needs, and views. But in ways we can not see with our eyes they are very much alike. Truly each one of us has many mental facets being so extraordinary in range. With the right insight, you could have an interest that you didn’t even know interested you. Let your partner take you on that ride and see if you find your heart’s song! You will never know until you try!

Really, there isn’t a definite definition that clearly defines the real meaning of marriage. Simply put it is like a feeling, never felt before, unmatched, uncharted, hard to get your bearings kind of adventure. Some of us humans spend years and years trying to figure each other out. Just to land our feet firmly on that path of righteousness. But the truth is no marriage can be conquered! No! it’s much more like studying a particular human being for the rest of all time. Bring infatuated by learning what makes that particular person happy. Always helping them on their path to finding the joy inside their understanding of you. All while learning that struggles will come with all relationships, not just the current one. It’s the being able to show your true colors and be excepted, loved, and honored even with fallacies. That is what sets us apart from most other creatures. Being able to communicate your desire to love that person even though you don’t always agree with all their ideas and thought patterns. Don’t limit your marriage to a generic definition, don’t put it inside of a box and place a lid overtop. Expecting your marriage to survive with no air, is suffocating, to say the least. Once you find that person that captures your intrigue and adds water to the garden of your life. From then on block out the rest of the world and make that person your purpose. Pray to God that you stay righteous and that your particular human does too!